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Resentments and regrets: working with unfinished business.
May 23, 2013 by lechatdargent
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The sense of the word resent as feeling something again (and again) appeals to me. Like a sore tooth the tongue can”t keep away from, i constantly revisit the unpleasant memory. Could it be that grief is better then nothing?
The fact that that the word resent can also mean to send something again seems relevant. Why do i persist in sending this stuff to myself? (rhetorical questions)
I like this very much, thank you! I didn’t spot the re-sent implication, which is interesting as gestalt therapists are forever hyphenating words to draw out their implications!
Re-sent fits well with the sense of resentment being unfinished business. It is re-sent in order to complete.
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“…discovering that which is necessary for completion.” I’ve got a list of things that fall under this general consideration. I call it The Don’t You Dare Touch That List, Not Until – interesting that. My visual picture is of a scab that needs to be removed – but it seems to be healing so nicely….except the wound is septic and rotting from within. It’s a torturous road whether I stay or go, but at least if I go in I get closer to leaving it behind. But not yet….I guess I’m still ‘enjoying’ the suffering – AKA afraid. Another great blog – thanks Simon.
Thanks Albie 🙂
The “not until” bit makes me think of support. As in, what support needs to be in place before that can be touched? The sense of being touched and the wound metaphor then gets me thinking in an embodied direction. So if each item on the list was given a location on/in your body, where would it be?
Not necessarily questions to answer out loud, just where my thoughts go.